Friday, June 18, 2010

Father's day

this post is part of a reply to a post on alphabetsy's blog

I didn't grew up with my father. My mommy raised me alone. He has a huge alcohol problem and lives some 8h away. For now it's been a year without news of him, and before that another year, and before that some 4 years, etc... From the day my mom got him out of my life I saw him ... 5 or 7 times. At school when it was time to make a father's day project I'd refuse saying I don't even know where to send it.

I understand my mom's choice but I don't have a father. Father's day never meant anything to me before I met my bf. Now I'm blessed with an awesome father for my family and an equally awesome father-in-law! And I'm very grateful to have those man in my life!

***this post has no picture because my BF doesn't like his face being post. However I have TONS of pictures in mind that could fit ... from the one where he has Mariann on his shoulder (she almost touches the celling!) to the ones they are hugging for a nap to those precious ones where they are walking holding hands. He truly his a wonderful father!

ok, I've changed my mind and added one.

Mariann, around 5h old, holding Grand-Papa's finger.


  1. My Dad passed away last August....he was a terrible father but for some reason I miss him. I never talking to him in years and the 9 years I did live with him was the worst 9 years of my life.
    I'm happy your kids will have a father in their lives.

  2. That is a beautiful picture. It is very odd for me to celebrate Father's now because I never really celebrated it when I was growing up. My mom left my dad while my brother and I were very young because he was an abusive alcoholic and raised us on her own. I am so happy that you have found a wonderful partner that is a great father! Cheers!

  3. It seems we have something in common. My dad has been an alcoholic longer than I've been alive. My parents divorced when I was still in diapers and I didn't know him beyond my twice yearly visits. For some of the time he lived only 4 hours away and still saw me only twice a year- at his parents' house.

    I have mixed feelings about him. I love him dearly, but I hate the alcohol. I lived with him for a few years when I was a pre-teen and when I moved back to my mom's I didn't speek to him for 7 years. We eventually got a lot of stuff aired out and our relationship improved, but he still drinks and he's still not wholley involved in my life.

    He didn't want to come to my wedding (he wanted me to come to his place to get married), he didn't go to my high school graduation and now my graduation from Uni. He's never met his youngest grandson whose almost 2 and hasn't seen the eldest since he was 4. He wants us to come to him, but he won't make the effort to see us.

    But I do have a wonderful step-dad whose made up for my lack of "fatherhood"...and my husband is showing me just how involved a dad can be.

  4. I am saddened how many of us never really had a father, but have hope since the new generation of Fathers are making up for that. :)

  5. I imagine how hard it must have been for you to be raised fatherless, but it would be really sad to see him deteriorating himself in front of you both...
    I'm happy you have this increadible love and also the father-in-law as a bonus. What a lovely pic!

    Lucas is being raised without his father because he was an abusive husband in the last years... I didn't want my little son to grow up watching me being treated like crap like I was, and I definitely would never let him defend me against him with his little fists like last time, so I was wise. He talks to his dad from time to time on the phone, but I can see he's okay, feeling the peace at our home now - and his school's award tells me something about it!

    Have a beautiful weekend.

  6. Andréann, you've finally done it. I thought I was inoculated against Mariann's extreme cuteness, but this photo brought tears to my eyes. Wish your BF "Bonne Fête des Pères" from all of us!

  7. Beautiful picture! Mariann is blessed to grow up with two parents who obviously adore her.

  8. I love your blog, it is very creative


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